Is there any distinct differences between Valentine's Day and Non Valentine's Day?
Different kind of people will probably give you a different answer.
Romantic Man: "Of course, its the best time to give surprises for your hot date."
Economical Man: "Whats the difference? Its just a business opportunity for florists."
Dating Woman: "I'm hoping that i will receive something."
Married Woman: "I just bought flowers for him."
There is no difference if a man is married or not, but just a matter of whether he thinks its necessary/economical. To all men out there, whether you have been dating for 5 years or married for 1 year. It will always be a man's responsibility to pamper your other half. It is not about the value of the gift, but its a sincere heart that you put into getting the gift. The lady may eventually kick a fuss out of how cheap the gift is or how ridiculous looking it may be, but they are definitely full of delight.
The difference in the female answer is definitely an effect of prolonged expectation. Eventually they become so despair that they gave up any glimspe of hope that one day a deliveryman would knock on the door and say "Mdm, You've got a bouquet of flowers for you!" Once you get married, the gifts and flowers eventually dried up. The chance of striking lottery may probably be higher than that of you being on the receiving end of flowers from your husband.
Anyway, flowers or not is usually not the important point. I always agree with men who says that flowers is a waste of money. Is 12 stalks of roses really worth almost $100? Probably it will only cost you $20-$30 for the same 12 stalks in a market. Is the $200-$300 8 course romantic dinner really worth the money? So much for the fine dining part, but you'll only feel hungrier after the pathetic portion of dinner. All these commotion about being valentine's day is just a marketing scam where shrewd business people squeeze every drop of juice from your pocket, just to try convince the men that your partner will give you a good sex to reward your expenditure. If you think about it, probably the men will get a good sex from their female counterpart at a fraction of the cost. If you can just treat her better on a day to day basis, you will definitely save much more on this fateful day of the year.
Every little thing you do for her will make her feel special. These things may not even cost you a single cent. Giving her a morning call, making/buying her breakfast, sending her a good morning message may well be the simplest things to make her feel special everyday. Then comes the occasional shopping and dinner trips that you bring her to. Followed by the annual surprises that you give to her on Valentine's day, Anniversaries (Not the monthly kind) as well as her birthday. Out of the 365 days a year, these are definitely not too much to ask for after sticking with you through all the joys and sorrows.
Back to the point about Valentine's Day, its really not a special day because if you stick closely to the plan above, every moment the lady spent with you feels like Valentine's Day. It used to be a romantic day, but it seems more like a boasting day. It is the day where all female trainers out there reap their rewards for whipping their studs day in and day out to instill the gentledoggy mentality in them. The day where all women try to boast about how wonderful and romantic their male partners are. So where does the boasting rights come from? Obviously its the flowers and gifts because all the envious attention will be on the person who receives the most flowers and gifts.
So the conclusion for all men, do yourself and your partner a favour. The gifts can wait, but at least some flowers for the lady on such an important day. Their neck probably grew an inch longer just by trying to stare out of the door for a deliveryman. Not everything is about the economical value, but there are things that has to be done whether you like it or not. It feels just like a hero saving a damsel in distress. Stress from all the questions like "Hey gal, when are your flowers coming?"
Thursday, February 14, 2008
Tuesday, July 10, 2007
Life-Changing Decisions
While having lunch, a colleague asked me some very interesting questions and feedback with regards to Singapore education especially students. My colleague is from Indonesia and he completed his colege studies before arriving in our little island for his degree in Engineering. He mentioned to me that polytechnic students in his course seems to be able to get into momentum much easier than college students.
My colleague was on a contract, and he is looking to get a permanent position in the front operations of my company as compared to the back operations. He felt quite bad as he already knew that he will not be offered a front operations position due to the fact that there are better candidates than him. He is an engineering student and currently we are in the financial sector. In fact i pretty much believe that he actually has an edge in another sense. It is not difficult to be part of the financial sector regardless of the degree you hold, but it will be almost impossible for any person with a business or financial degree to have a part in the engineering sector. Since this is the case, i will believe that it is more logical to have a specialised degree for a specialised industry. With that, you will probably be more versatile in terms of the task you may be able to perform in any job. At least this is my perspective, but anyone can disagree with their own rational.
A question was popped to me with regards to the process that i went through to make a decision to enrol myself in a polytechnic instead of a junior college. The very simple answer will definitely be that i do not enjoy wearing uniforms and adhering closely to school hours. Any polytechnic can provide me with a more flexible education. As far as this question dependable on individual views, i have always believed strongly that a decent polytechnic student with good attitude should be able to do better than a college student. Pretty biase views, but until now i still believe in it. Lets put things in perspective. A polytechnic student spends 3 years to complete a diploma, but a college students spends 2 years. Sound like an advantage, but what if the polytechnic student decides to pursue a degree closely similar to what he/she did for diploma? He/she will probably get a 1 year exemption to go to year 2, and that puts he/she right back with the college people. On top of that, he/she will probably already have decent experience in doing what everyone is supposed to do for their course. This seems like a quick comeback by the diploma holder. There can be hundreds and maybe thousands of scenarios that a person will probably be able to come up with to rebut my reasoning against college students, but this scenario definitely still stands. There is also another saying, which can be a logical rationale. In this little island, having a diploma is not enough to get you anywhere unless you are doing sales. What happens if a college student did not make it through 'A' Levels? Theres actually quite a handful of such people who drop out of college to join a polytechnic after a year.
Please do not feel too personal against the post above as it is just a way to look at things. You may appreciate it as something that was never brought to your attention before or you can just take it personal. It is afterall just a blog post about my views about life that affects my decisions. At least my colleague nods in agreement with me although his a college student. It was not even emphasised that college students tend to be more arrogant as brought up in my previous blog post.
My colleague was on a contract, and he is looking to get a permanent position in the front operations of my company as compared to the back operations. He felt quite bad as he already knew that he will not be offered a front operations position due to the fact that there are better candidates than him. He is an engineering student and currently we are in the financial sector. In fact i pretty much believe that he actually has an edge in another sense. It is not difficult to be part of the financial sector regardless of the degree you hold, but it will be almost impossible for any person with a business or financial degree to have a part in the engineering sector. Since this is the case, i will believe that it is more logical to have a specialised degree for a specialised industry. With that, you will probably be more versatile in terms of the task you may be able to perform in any job. At least this is my perspective, but anyone can disagree with their own rational.
A question was popped to me with regards to the process that i went through to make a decision to enrol myself in a polytechnic instead of a junior college. The very simple answer will definitely be that i do not enjoy wearing uniforms and adhering closely to school hours. Any polytechnic can provide me with a more flexible education. As far as this question dependable on individual views, i have always believed strongly that a decent polytechnic student with good attitude should be able to do better than a college student. Pretty biase views, but until now i still believe in it. Lets put things in perspective. A polytechnic student spends 3 years to complete a diploma, but a college students spends 2 years. Sound like an advantage, but what if the polytechnic student decides to pursue a degree closely similar to what he/she did for diploma? He/she will probably get a 1 year exemption to go to year 2, and that puts he/she right back with the college people. On top of that, he/she will probably already have decent experience in doing what everyone is supposed to do for their course. This seems like a quick comeback by the diploma holder. There can be hundreds and maybe thousands of scenarios that a person will probably be able to come up with to rebut my reasoning against college students, but this scenario definitely still stands. There is also another saying, which can be a logical rationale. In this little island, having a diploma is not enough to get you anywhere unless you are doing sales. What happens if a college student did not make it through 'A' Levels? Theres actually quite a handful of such people who drop out of college to join a polytechnic after a year.
Please do not feel too personal against the post above as it is just a way to look at things. You may appreciate it as something that was never brought to your attention before or you can just take it personal. It is afterall just a blog post about my views about life that affects my decisions. At least my colleague nods in agreement with me although his a college student. It was not even emphasised that college students tend to be more arrogant as brought up in my previous blog post.
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